Murtaza Bambot: And then another question came from Nina, which I wanted to surface too, was talking about the levels of depth of sharing vulnerability.
We talked about going level one, two and three. Can you share a little bit more about like how people can get into that mindset and better do it? Because I think, When you're first approaching it, it's really hard to get out of the surface level mindset of just like really basic tweets, really basic information.
What are the things that have helped you get to that level three kind of
KP: mindset? Yeah it's a great question by the way. And I think it's vulnerabilities, I think directly related to courage in my view. And courage is a muscle. So the first time I was a little bit more vulnerable than normal, I felt scared and I was like, huh, should I publish or no?
Should I take it back? But then I did it anyway, and then I saw the warmth and reactions from the good people. I'm like, wow, people actually appreciate Me being open and then second time the third time. So I think by now, I'm like 8, 000 reps or something So of course now it's no brainer I can like tweet anything that comes to my mind as long as it's useful and helpful for others without feeling, worried about judgment But yeah, I think initially I would start with the simplest things.
So the easy actionable step is thinking about Here's what I know about my industry that most people are getting it wrong And it's not a hook. It's literally what you feel, right? And so try there. Start there. Here's what I know or here's what I wish I knew about my career that nobody told me back when I got started.
Like these are small prompts, but the more you open up and slowly give us a little peek that you would like, you would probably share that with a friend over a salad. By the way, the biggest mind frame that I want you to embrace is slowly thinking about less about the audience. Don't think the millions of eyeballs and it's not like a stage performative thing.
I always think of a campfire, that I'm next to a few people at a campfire and they ask me, KP, what do you think about this building public strategy about transparency? Like I feel a little nervous, what should I do? Then my answer goes, Oh, the time I felt nervous, here's what I did. Bam, that's it. Now, if it resonates to 80, 000 people or 900, 000 or 89, I don't give a shit.
And I think you should not give a shit because that's really not in our control. And there are people that lose minds about that. And then that always turns into burnout. So if you. Think of your audience as either a campfire, four or five people, warm, I always imagine like Murtaza and Ash and a couple other friends sitting around when I'm tweeting something, I never think that there's this huge, American idol, like audience judging me, right?
Because then I would never be able to tweet.
Murtaza Bambot: Following off that question, Shaday asked another great question, which is, can you overshare? And if yes, like about that.
KP: Yes please don't overshare. And the line that I draw with oversharing is, like I said, I use my personal lens.
Would I read this? Is this useful? If somebody else shared it, so for example, like if Arvid called one of my close friends and I'm giving shit to him right now, but it's okay. Cause he does, he's fun. But if you share something about like he ate a banana or he had he watched a plane go by on the ceiling.
I don't give a shit about that. It's not useful, not relevant. At that point it becomes more of a. Like a personal social media, like update, which used to be, back in the day That's how social media was. Remember Hey, I just took a walk, lost 80 calories, like something, I, I think that's what I used to do for years.
And I thought why am I not growing? It's because I was oversharing instead of thinking of what can I teach or what can I share? What can I so really what you want to draw from is the wealth of knowledge you have, the wealth of experience you have. So that's why I think it's more like a campfire vibe where you try to at least have a dose of value, a kernel of value for somebody else.
But if it's a bland update about the fact that you just bought the next gap, jacket that looks so great, nobody cares. I think oversharing is that, so make sure that you don't go too far, but doesn't mean like you're so robotic that you don't share personal life, right?
You can still share personal life, but From the lens of joy, from the lens of emotion, like some kind of emotion, not from the lens of a bland update. So that's my answer. I feel like most of us don't go into that corner for what I've learned is most people don't overshare. Most people undershare.
And that's the problem. So initially I used to make one tweet a week and thought I was the hot shit, right? One tweet no, you gotta make, I, at my peak, when I was gaining a lot of followers, I made 20 tweets a day. Actually, I just recently posted a Twitter screenshot from back then to now. I just crossed 37, 200 tweets, I think.
So if you do the math around how many days I've been active, it roughly boils down to 20 tweets on average, which is crazy, right? But I'm sure many of you haven't seen many of the tweets. It's also we think that we're annoying a lot of people, but we're really not, so we, I think we have, we massively have the problem of undersharing other than oversharing.
Murtaza Bambot: And I guess the follow up question too is there have you seen people overshare on their business? And if yes what does that look like?
KP: Oh yeah. On the business side too, I think I think, I feel like most people should go into the, the teach slash educate side of it. As opposed to living the lifestyle and sharing the lifestyle.
Cause I feel like lifestyle gets bored really easily. If I'm like always tweeting about, look at my Audi Q5, look at this black, which is my car right there. It's look at my cool, like what's what's, I don't get it. I feel like it's just a. I don't know. I just feel like it's just, it's, it has a limited shelf value of how much you can talk about whatever Lamborghini you buy.
So even if from a business point of view, a lot of the times, if you share too much about it seems like bragging or seems like something that you're constantly flexing or, I think it just, you can, people can tell and you'll lose their engagement, but if you're sharing something of value or something of a lesson, the formula is like either a lesson or insight.
Or a painful truth, right? Like it should be one of these three and occasionally updates. But what happens is oversharing usually means the first three are missing and it's just updates. If Mortaza just started sharing every Slack thing, he writes in not Slack or a heartbeat thing, sorry, on Twitter, now that's oversharing.
But so if, but if there is a lesson every once in a while, if there's a insight, earned insight, or if there is a painful truth, now that's interesting.
Murtaza Bambot: That's great. And then this one, this question was coming from Giselle. And by the way, y'all, we have time for maybe one more question, so feel free to drop anything else you have in the Zoom chat.